In the previous post, we talked about the difference between positive courtship and negative courtship in a healthy relationship and the subject of, "I will compensate you." In this post, we will talk about initiative in a healthy relationship and two-way versus one-way relationships.
Reciprocity in a healthy relationship is very important. One of the things that adds interest and color to a healthy relationship is the initiative from each partner.
WHO TREATS WHO BETTER IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP?
In a balanced and healthy relationship, the ultimate goal of each partner is only to bring good to the other partner. Because as much as the other will be better off, and they will radiate more joy, satisfaction, enthusiasm and happiness, will you also be better off and, in fact, both of you will feel much better about yourselves.
WHICH OF YOU CAN READ MINDS?
Although it is very important for you to treat each other well, neither of you is a mind reader, therefore, there is a limit to how much each of you can guess what the other wants, what he or she expects you to do for them and what would do your partner well. Then, when one of you initiates and requests things from the other, each partner helps the other know what to do to satisfy the other, and thus you develop excellent mutual communication in a healthy relationship.
HOW TO GET OUT OF THE BORING ROUTINE IN YOUR HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP?
In some cultures, it is customary that one side must do everything the other asks. (Usually, the woman has to do what the man says). Such a mindset creates an unequal relationship and if you want a successful healthy relationship, you must oppose this, because as soon as there is a system that is not based on reciprocity, but based only on one-sidedness, nothing good can come from it anymore.
On the other hand, when a healthy relationship is based mainly on reciprocity and the desire to satisfy and fulfill every possible and logical desire of the opposite party, the initiatives from each side are like an ornament to the loving, healthy relationship and suddenly, your life as a couple turns from a state of boring routine into a life of exciting moments, surprising and unexpected.
When we talk about making things possible, it is important to maintain a family budget framework. There is no justification for spending large sums of money if there is no need for it. If you have a suitable budget, that's great, but if you don't have the budget, it's better to postpone or try to find a better idea within your budget.
HOW ABOUT WE DO SUCH AND SUCH NOW?
Each of your initiative should come without too much pre-planning and be spontaneous because the surprise effect is important here. It is important to note that it is necessary to consider the feasibility of carrying out the idea, considering both sides, but it is still the surprise effect that will bring the new colors into your life. This can be expressed in a statement like, "How about we go out to a restaurant tonight?" or sexual things like, "I want to do such and such to you in bed." There are lots of ideas. The point is that every such idea that comes as an initiative based on a surprise will bring new joys into your life and your healthy relationship.
DO YOU REALLY CARE ABOUT YOUR PARTNER?
If you feel most of the time that you are the only one initiating and you have to ask for things, then it is a one-way relationship. A one-way relationship is when either one partner constantly determines what needs to be done, or that partner asks for things. In both cases it is only one side.
Only when you are able to create a successful, healthy relationship based on mutuality - that is, sometimes you ask, and sometimes your partner asks, sometimes you initiate, and sometimes your partner initiates - only then will you be able to maintain a healthy relationship based on caring. Then, the acts of these initiated surprises will be like an ornament or a twist to your life, just like a successful chef who adds a surprising ingredient to his dish, and you are thrilled with the excitement of the meal.
Couples who have a healthy relationship feel more satisfied and happier in their lives. These couples have a reduced chance of suffering from physical and mental problems. A healthy relationship will increase your sense of personal value and your value of belonging, and help you feel more together and less alone.
A healthy relationship is a very important goal to achieve because it is characterized by less mental stress for both partners and the couple may feel healthier, feel that they have a greater purpose, and have a higher chance of living longer. Therefore, couples who define a goal to reach a healthy relationship focus themselves on the best place that they can be.
In our SHOP you can find and purchase products that are especially suitable for a healthy relationship. Every gift you give to your loved ones is very exciting, but when you give a gift with the intention of improving a relationship and making it a healthy relationship, it takes you to much higher places in terms of the quality of the healthy relationship between the two of you.
In our store you can find and purchase products that are especially suitable for a healthy relationship. Every gift you give to your loved ones is very exciting, but when you give a gift with the intention of improving a relationship and making it a healthy relationship, it takes you to much higher places in terms of the quality of the healthy relationship between the two of you.
See you in the next post.
Chaya & Yiftach
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