CREATING BALANCE IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH ONLY TWO WORDS!
Since we are small children, we are taught as soon as we receive a gift or candy from our grandfather, grandmother or uncle, to say THANK YOU.
And these two words, "thank you" contain a balance, like: "You gave me something, and I currently cannot or should not give you something in return, so the balance is maintained by the very fact that I say thank you." And you can't describe how important it is to say thank you, especially in a healthy relationship.
As soon as I say, "thank you" in a healthy relationship, the depth that lies within these words is the meaning of things like, "I really appreciate that you gave me what you gave me," "I appreciate what you did for me," "It is not obvious," "You don't owe me anything." Although the phrase, "thank you" is in the world of politeness, it is much deeper because it comes from a world of balance if you want to have a healthy relationship.
Because as soon as you gave me something and I didn't say thank you, I actually broke the balance. Because maybe I don't appreciate it, maybe I'm ungrateful, maybe I treat you with disdain, maybe I take you for granted, but as soon as I say "thank you" for everything, even the little things, in a healthy relationship, then it means I appreciate you, That I don't take you for granted, and I really appreciate what's going on here right now. If you adopt this, you are in the direction you want to live and have a healthy relationship.
THANK YOU ARE 2 CRITICAL WORDS FOR MAINTAINING BALANCE IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
A healthy relationship is constantly based on the principles of good communication. It's a constant give and take relationship. This is not a relationship with a person whom I see for an hour once a week, but it is me and you living here at home seven days a week together, and by our very presence as a couple living and being together, we are in the being of: "You do something for me and I do something for you," "you give me something and I give you something," "you ask me for something and I give you what you ask for." And this is especially important when you want to achieve a healthy relationship.
And a large part of the communication in a healthy relationship can reach very unpleasant places if one partner feels taken advantage of, if one partner feels that the other does not treat them with respect, or takes them for granted, therefore the words "thank you" are critical to maintain a balance in maintaining the healthy relationship.
HOW IS IT CORRECT TO SAY THANK YOU IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP?
When talking about the concept of "thank you" in a healthy relationship it is divided into two parts:
The first part is on a technical level, for everything you do for me, give me, I asked from you and you brought me, so I say "thank you" at the level of words in the language.
The second part is much deeper. These are not just words, but a being. Live in gratitude. Thank you. Thank you for reality, thank you for the life I live. It could have been much worse now. I have to give thanks for the situation I am in. And here I have an opportunity to love you, to give you, to show you how much I care about you, to give to you, to receive from you.
A balanced, healthy relationship is a relationship characterized by being grateful. I thank you. I thank reality for everything that happens to me and us together and for the multitude of opportunities that allow me to have our relationship and nurture it every day. I also do not take life for granted and I am thankful for every second that contains all the wonderful things I have in my life.
I thank you every day for everything I have, for everything I have achieved, for my ability to love you, for your ability to love me, for the fact that we are healthy. Nothing is taken for granted and I am thankful for everything every day.
Thanks to the fact that I thank you every moment and live in a general state of gratitude, my life is much more pleasant and I don't feel that I am leading myself into conflicts with you, but I live in a state of gratitude and appreciation and I am very excited and happy at every moment.
If I were grumpy and angry about everything, and unsatisfied and frustrated, my life would be much less pleasant than it is now. If I live now as a being of gratitude, it leads me to live a life that is much more pleasant than it could be if I didn't live like this.
And this is especially important when you want to achieve a healthy relationship.
IS SAYING THANK YOU REAL OR NOT REAL?
When you say: "thank you," in a healthy relationship, is it real or not real?
Thank you, you can really say from the bottom of your heart, and it can also be like "just" saying a word to fulfill a duty.
Like: "What do you want? I said thank you!" or, "You did something for me, so here, I said thank you." And this is less recommended when you want to achieve a healthy relationship.
Let's say in a healthy relationship the woman prepared a meal for the man and he thanked her, but it wasn't really a heartfelt thank you, not really with appreciation It was saying a word but not really standing behind it. And that's something you feel. A person knows how to feel if it comes from the whole heart, from a place of appreciation and not to feel taken for granted, or just to fulfill a duty. What is said is said half-heartedly or less.
If you adopt the things that are written here in the post, you have a high chance of being in a healthy relationship.
TO SAY THANK YOU IN A GENUINE WAY WITH PURE INTENTION
In a healthy relationship, you have to make sure that these words of thank you are said in a genuine way with pure intention, otherwise it's problematic and maybe it's better not to say them at all Because it sounds fake. The idea is to say thank you from a place of pure intention, or from a place of, “I stand behind the things and I really meant to say them.”
It also doesn't matter if it was successful or not, for example regarding the meal, if it was really tasty or not, but there was a gesture, and this gesture should receive the appropriate statement. When you say thank you just out of habit, it may sound not really worth it. So, the emphasis should be placed from where the thanks are said. And this is especially important when you want to achieve a healthy relationship.
See you in the next post.
Chaya & Yiftach
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